“Growth and comfort do not go together; it is in the challenge of change that we find our true strength and value.”
Several years ago I found myself at a professional crossroads. I worked in the nonprofit sector, where passion often trumps the pursuit of a higher salary, but I loved my job and the mission of the organization I worked for.
Unexpectedly, a recruiter contacted me with an offer that seemed too tempting to ignore – a position that not only promised a role that was just as fulfilling, but also a Salary increase of $20,000. I was torn. I toyed with the idea of discussing a pay increase with my current employer, fully aware that such conversations were rare in my industry and typically led to a modest increase, if any.
The thought of approaching my boss for a raise, especially months before salary reviews were even on the agenda, was terrifying. The fear of overstepping, appearing ungrateful, or even risking jeopardizing my current position weighed heavily on me. But beneath those fears was a stronger, more persuasive voice that reminded me of my worth. It whispered about self-esteem and the importance of standing up for myself, despite the fear, discomfort and potential for change this could bring.
After all, change is scary! It evokes a wide range of emotions, from excitement to fear. It challenges our comfort zones, pushes us into the unknown and forces us to face the possibility of loss – whether it be the loss of stability, fameor the comfort of our current routines. The fear of change is deeply rooted in our psyche and serves as a protective mechanism that has developed over centuries.
However, I believe that the. is equally powerful fear of stagnation– of missing out on what could have been, of not reaching your full potential. This fear propels you forward and encourages you to take risks, embrace the possibility of growth, and pursue the realization of your dreams. This fear stems from the realization that personal and professional development often requires us to step into the unknown and become uncomfortable embrace change… even if you fear it.
Balancing these fearsthe fear of change and the fear of stagnation– is delicate. It requires introspection and a willingness to confront what you really fear. In my case, it meant recognizing that the fear of not standing up for myself, of not pursuing what I deserved, was greater than the fear of change itself. It was a realization that sometimes fear is worth the discomfort if it leads to growth, new opportunities, and fulfillment.
Ultimately, I decided to tell my boss about the offer and my desire for a raise. The conversation was difficult, but that’s what it was empowering. It reinforced the idea that valuing yourself and taking risks are important for personal and professional growth. Whether we choose to embrace change or seeking improvement within our current circumstances, the journey involves navigating our fears and making decisions that align with our values and aspirations.
The answer? My boss recognized my contributions and, after some negotiation, agreed to a pay increase. It wasn’t the full $20,000 increase, but it was significant enough to reflect my value to the organization and keep me engaged in the work I loved. My decision to stay wasn’t just about the money. There were other factors: my satisfaction with my role and my passion for the mission. I was willing to accept less to stay in a position where I felt truly fulfilled and appreciated.
Ultimately, the recruiter’s call served as a catalyst for reflection and action, not just on my career trajectory, but on the broader theme of change in our lives. Whether it’s considering a new job, seeking well-deserved recognition, or any other crossroads you encounter, the journey through fear and uncertainty can lead to profound personal growth and fulfillment. Change, with all its anxieties, is not only inevitable, but necessary. And as I’ve learned, sometimes the fear of standing still is the push we need to move forward.
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