Why we need the calm leader on our team

Some of the best leaders started their careers without the ambition to lead. They weren’t the “take charge” kids on the playground. They did not seek the limelight or strive for prestige. They weren’t the go-getters, pioneers or stars of the show. People were just drawn to them. Others trusted and respected them. And before they knew it, they were leading the way without even signing up for the job. These ‘low-key leaders’ can be found in all corners of organizations and it is better for us to have them on our team.

How do you identify a calm leader?

In general, quiet leaders share a number of common traits. They are generally not inclined towards power or control. They are not looking for accolades or top billing. They are driven by an intrinsic drive to achieve a vision or goal (or simply to do the right thing) without needing to be recognized as ‘the one’ who achieved it. They are willing to find and utilize the best that others have to offer and create a way for others to shine.

Perhaps because of these traits, they are not inclined to seek out formal leadership roles. They may even deliberately distance themselves from leadership, believing that it is reserved for those with a more extroverted personality style. In her 2012 book Quiet: the power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking, Susan Cain speaks about the trend in the United States, especially to over-defend extroverted leaders and overlook the strengths of those with a more introverted approach. As a result, even restrained leaders may resist seeing themselves as leaders, or as willing to possess the natural influence they have within their teams, organizations, and communities.

During the launch of each of HLI’s Leadership Fellowship and Academy programs, we ask participants to share the qualities that come to mind when they think of great leaders. Not surprisingly, “charismatic” and “inspirational” are almost always on the list. However, surrounding these words are often understated leadership qualities such as “good listener,” “compassionate,” “thoughtful and reasoned problem solver,” “empowers others,” “calming influence,” and so on. The final list usually paints a picture of perfection and versatility that is rarely, if ever, found in one person. The most important lesson from this conversation is the need to make room for all types of leaders, rather than exaggerating the virtues of any one leader. We need our charismatic and progressive pioneers. But we also need restrained leaders who are not so outspoken or take charge. This is what we see as the low-key leader and why they are needed in every organization.

Why we need calm leaders

Quiet leaders bring legitimate and vital leadership strengths, just as you are. You don’t have to rewire your personality to lead your teams and organizations to great results. As with all leaders, you will always have space grow and expand, but this doesn’t mean you have to be all things to all people. All leaders need to adapt their style and approach to some extent to be effective, and the same goes for you. To realize a vision for your team or organization, you will have to flex muscles that are not so naturally strong – by promoting yourself and your team; reaching out to build relationships beyond your team and department; Lead “out loud” more often than you might be inclined to. We encourage these types of leaders not to feel this way must become the charismatic, enthusiastic and dynamic image of a leader so often touted as the gold standard.

The reality is that your calm approach is appreciated, and others are therefore inclined to follow you. They like that you temper optimism with realism. They appreciate your hesitation to embrace the latest fads, your willingness to acknowledge obstacles and limitations (without being too easily deterred), your ability to give others a voice and make others shine, your quiet persistence, etc. These are as much the hallmarks of great leadership as they are the more commonly celebrated traits of extroverts.

Own the fact that you are leading and influencing as you are. Whenever possible, be willing to take on a formal leadership role. Not only will you bring vital perspectives and qualities to your organization, but you will also pave the way for others with a calm style to see themselves as leaders.

HLI Leadership Training can help

With all good leaders, there is always room to expand, grow and nurture their skills to be a more effective leader. At HLI we have one various leadership training courses designed to unleash the potential of all leaders and help them improve their leadership skills to be effective communicators, balanced professionals and better manage a team.

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